Some people are great about finding the positive in any situation and telling you about it. They are the types of bosses, co-workers, teachers, and friends who will give you some constructive criticism while pointing out everything you have done right, even if the project or situation turns out to be a total mess. They are the people that build you up and give you the confidence boost you need to go back and fix things or start from scratch.
Then there are people who cannot give a compliment without also pointing out your shortcomings. They tend to focus on the negative in any situation and are quick to share that with you. These people can be hard to live and work with. The big question is what type of person you are and how do you think and communicate about your life and your surroundings.
If increased happiness is your goal, I suggest you work on making sure you think and communicate in a positive way. Why is thinking important? Because it is how we communicate with ourselves. I do not know about you, but I would much rather spend my time becoming my biggest cheerleader, than my worst critic.
Here is the good news. How you think and how you communicate can be learned and unlearned. That means if you are a bit of a pessimist right now, you can learn to think, be, and talk in a more positive way. Of course learned behaviours and habits are not always easy to change. Step one is that you must want to change. Step two is to learn to recognize your behaviour as it happens. Listen to the thoughts that are happening in your head and stop and make yourself think before you speak. Step three is to practice the new habit and behaviour. And that is really all there is to it.
Take a few minutes to reflect on how you have been thinking today. Think back on conversations you have had with others and get a feel for how you communicate with yourself and others. Are you as positive as you would like to be, or is there room for improvement. If so, start implementing the simple three step process I shared with you and keep practicing until this more positive way of thinking and communicating has become a strong new habit. It will have a significant impact in your own happiness and that of those around you.