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The Connection Between Doing Stuff And Happiness

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We are hard wired for acting and getting stuff done. It only makes sense, doesn’t it? Our survival as a society depends on the actions of lots of different people. We each do our part and everything runs smoothly. It only makes sense then that we have an internal mechanism hard wired into our brain that rewards us for getting things done.

I am sure you have seen this in action in your own life. You feel proud, accomplished, and happy when you wrap up a big work project, or finish reorganizing your closet. It is a great feeling and it is what drives us to get things done on a regular basis. It is motivation to get to work and act.

On the other hand, when we do not have anything meaningful to do and we do not feel like we are contributing, we get depressed. People who do not have a fulfilling job, or feel like the work they do is useless, are much more likely to feel down, tired, sad, and depressed.

The best way to turn that around is to find something, anything we can do to make us feel productive. If we feel like we are contributing to others, having a positive impact on their lives, all the better.

Give it a try.

The next time you feel down, force yourself to do one little productive thing. Go clean the bathroom, organize your bookshelf, or do a load of laundry. Then use the accomplishment from that to motivate yourself to get something else done. Keep building on it, and before you know it you will notice your mood changing for the better

If you want to supercharge this experience, go out and do something productive that helps others. Go work at a soup kitchen for a couple of hours, or help at your local animal shelter. Offer to baby sit for a friend with little kids who has not been out all week. Do something that benefits someone else and you will feel even better than before.

For the long run, make it a goal to work at a job, or build a business that helps fuel this feeling of contributing and giving back. Wouldn’t it be great if the hours you spent earning a living each week, also contributed to your overall happiness and a feeling of fulfilment? What can you do this week or this month to work towards this goal? That is where you want to start and in the meantime, keep volunteering, keep acting, and do things that make you feel happy and accomplished.

Dreams and Goals…

Another good one from Daily Motivation. Some of them tie in with the posts I am working on about happiness and having a good life.

“Spend a few minutes a day visualizing your best possible version. Think about how you would spend your time.

Try to imagine how it would feel to accomplish all your goals.

This exercise can make you more optimistic and improve the quality of the decisions you make every day.

It will motivate you to take the necessary steps to achieve all that you want.

Don’t lose hope yet.

If things are not going your way now, doesn’t mean that it will never get better.

Don’t limit your possibilities.

You always have the ability to grow.

Start Your Day With Gratefulness

Let us talk about Gratefulness.

Gratefulness is all about appreciating the good things in our lives. Starting our day by thinking about all the things we must be grateful for is a fantastic way to set the tone. Practicing gratefulness makes us focus on all the good and pleasant things in our lives and that, in turn, improves our overall happiness.

In other words, spending a few minutes early in the morning thinking about what we are grateful for, can improve our mood and our feeling of being happy for the entire day. That is something well worth checking and you do not have to spend a lot of time on it.

As you are waking up, or while you are sitting at your kitchen table sipping your first cup of tea or coffee, think about all the things and people you are thankful and grateful for. Focus your mind on anything positive that has happened the day before, or that you anticipate happening today. You can be grateful for the smallest of things. I wake up grateful that I have a warm and comfortable bed to sleep in and grateful that I am still alive! Think about the people in your life that you are grateful for including your parents, grandparents, significant other, children, friends, colleagues, a boss that gives you a job. Try to find something good about all important people in your life.

Another option is to just look around you. Look at your sunny kitchen, or the trees and birds that you can see outside your window. No matter what your living situation is right now, I am sure you can think of things about it you are grateful for, even if it is not your ideal living space.

Make this grateful exercise part of your morning ritual. Focusing on it, and practicing it at the same time each morning and, if possible, in a similar setting, will help you form a habit. And that is the goal for the long run. You want to be able to practice being grateful effortlessly and without having to think about it. Getting to that point alone will have a significant impact on how happy and content you feel. Try it for a few weeks and take note of how your mental outlook changes by simply adding this little exercise of gratitude in the mornings. Before long, you will do it automatically and will not want to miss this opportunity to acknowledge all the good things in your life.

What Makes You Happy?

Make sure you do this!

In the last post we started talking about happiness and you started thinking about what makes you happy. It was part of our commitment to happiness. Today we’re going to dig a little deeper. There are a lot of things that make us happy on a regular basis. Think about the simple little things that put a smile on your face. It could be a person, a thing, an experience, an action, a song… the list goes on and on.

An easy way to increase our overall happiness and contentment is to simply do something that makes us happy every single day. During this challenge that’s something you should work on. To make it easier for the remainder of this challenge, let’s come up with a list of what makes us happy. This will obviously be different for each one of us. Let me give you a few ideas and some things to think about. Then I want you to grab a pen and a notebook, or a piece of paper, or if you prefer, open your laptop and start typing away. I want you to make a list of things that make you happy.

Don’t overthink this. Don’t try to come up with an organized and categorized list. Instead, simply start brainstorming and jot things down. Don’t feel pressured to come up with everything all at once. Feel free to add to the list as time goes by and get in the habit of noticing things that make you happy and then adding them to the list throughout this challenge and beyond.

Let’s start with the big ones that make us happy. What people in your life make you happy? What things that you own bring you joy? What activities and hobbies that you have bring you lots of happiness? Think big here and pick what has the biggest impact on your mood. This could also include things like what gestures or actions put a big smile on your face. Places are another great addition. Maybe you’re happiest at the beach.

For me I like building models for my railway and playing wargames. I also love sitting in a bar or restaurant with friends and family. If I really want to be happy I would visit Istanbul or Casablanca or Almaty, places where I have been happiest!

Then think about the little things that make you happy. Maybe it’s sipping that first cup of coffee in the morning, a pretty flower in your garden, or having five minutes to yourself. From there just become more aware of what makes you happy, or what brings a smile to your face. Stop and take notice anytime that happens, and keep adding to your list of things that make you happy. It will be a great resource to have throughout this challenge. As a bonus it will make you grateful and content, just looking at this long list of people and things that bring you happiness

Make A Commitment To Cultivating Happiness

Happiness and habits!

What does it mean to be totally committed to something? It often means that you set a goal and then dedicate yourself to do what it takes to reach that goal. We commit to a relationship when we get married, we commit to a job or a career, and we may be committed to a hobby. But today I want to focus on committing to cultivating happiness.

I shared how at least part of how happy we are is related to a choice we make. I also shared my goal of running this Challenge to help us make a conscious decision to be happier and create a new habit of having a more positive outlook. The first step to make that happen is to make a commitment to this challenge and to happiness. This holds true for any new habit you want to engrain in yourself. The first step is always to commit to it. From there, it is a matter of daily practice until the new behaviour or action has become a true habit. A habit is something you do without any conscious thought or effort.

Our journey toward a happier version of ourselves is no different. We must commit to happiness. Of course it is not as easy as saying to yourself that you will be happier from here on out. While that is certainly helpful, it is not as simple as that. Before we can commit to happiness we have to define what makes us happy.

Spend some time today to reflect on what makes you happy and what does not make you happy. Dig deep. For example, if curling up on the couch with a good book makes you happy, think about why that is. Is it because it gives you a chance to escape and forget about your own life for a while? If so, try to pin-point what you are hiding from when you dive into a book and what you can do about that. If getting up at 6am to go to work makes you unhappy, and changing to a later schedule is not an option, think about the positive things about getting up early. You get to see the sun rise, you get to come home at a decent hour and have time to relax before bedtime. Something as simple as implementing a relaxing bed-time routine and going to bed a little earlier may make it much easier to get up at 6am and improve your whole outlook on workday mornings.

We will dig a little deeper into what makes us happy and how we can go about cultivating more happiness in future posts. For now, find your own personal definition of happiness and produce at least ten different things or people that make you happy. Then commit to using the coming days to work on becoming happier. You will not regret it.

Same theme…

I just got this from Daily Motivation

“You are capable of overcoming the challenges you face in life.

No matter what happens, do not let yourself get bogged down by fear, and negativity.

Be patient with yourself as you work through whatever life throws your way.

Give yourself some time to process your negative feelings and then allow yourself to move on. Things can change for the better.

You are attracting the greatest moments of your life. Be open to miracles. You deserve positive experiences.

You deserve happiness. You deserve a beautiful life. Keep going.“

Why Happiness Is A Choice You Make Every Day

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I’ve been feeling a bit down recently – probably because I just had a BIG birthday. I don’t like feeling down, so I went back to look through some of the articles I have collected and decided to share them.

Enjoy!

Are you a glass half full or half empty person? This is a great example to illustrate that there are often two sides to any story and that you have a choice in how you view things. And that choice in turn determines how happy you feel. Happiness then becomes a choice you make every single day.

You can choose to see the glass as half empty, focus on the fact that you are almost done drinking that nice glass of iced tea. With that attitude, you are more likely to feel a little depressed about your tea. If on the other hand you focus on the fact that the glass is still half full and you have plenty of ice-cold tea to sip on, your mood improves and you are increasing your happiness.

When you look at it that way, happiness really is a conscious choice you make, at least to a point. From what I have been reading 40% off your happiness is directly affected by how you think and how you choose to feel. And that is what the next 30 days is all about. Over the coming days I will post here on the blog daily with tips, advice, and strategies to help you make a conscious decision to be happier. Ready to join me?

Since happiness is a choice, and a choice we make every single day, I want to challenge you to make it a habit. Over the coming days, I want to inspire and encourage you to make a choice each morning to be happier.

It takes time and daily conscious decisions to change habits and how we approach life. That is where the challenge comes into play. The idea is that you have reminders here on the blog to help you remember to make that choice. Of course there will also be plenty of helpful content on the topic of happiness in the form of upcoming blog posts. At the end of the challenge, I hope you have formed new habits, new ways of thinking, and new ways to look at each situation as it arises. With a little shift in thinking and perception, you can craft a happier, more fulfilling life for yourself. I hope this challenge will help you get there.

Enjoy life

Helping

I have a close friend who is going through a hard time at the moment. She was working hard to look after her mother and son. While she was out at work her Mum looked after the young boy. Sadly, Mum has now gone blind. So my friend had to quit work to care for her Mum and son.

She is depressed and can’t see a way forward. I am doing my best to help her emotionally and to some extent financially, though my contract just finished too, and my next one is a few weeks away…

However, I found this lovely quote from Daily Motivation.

Maybe it will resonate with some of you.

“In life, we have to let go of many things.

Life offers us everything – joy, excitement and also sadness, and anger. We must experience all these aspects fully and learn from them.

The experiences you go through open you up to your strengths and aspects that can be improved. Allow things to come and go.

Let the moment be what it is. Life is continuously moving. We have to do our best to roll with it all.

Free yourself from your limiting beliefs. As you work with what you have, you will gather the strength to overcome obstacles and transform yourself.”

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Love and kisses.